Someone in your corner – not someone keeping score
Accountability works. But not when it shames you. Share your progress with a partner – you choose what, when, and how. No app required on their end. No data in the cloud.
Why Going It Alone Is So Hard
Without support, almost everyone quits
Research shows: people with an accountability partner are up to 95% more likely to follow through on their goals. For ADHD, this is even more pronounced. External feedback activates reward systems that internal motivation often can't reach. You don't need more willpower – you need a structure that works with the brain you have.
Other apps use comparisons – and they backfire
You see your partner hit 90%. You're at 40%. What happens? For ADHD brains with RSD (Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria), social comparison activates the same pain pathways as physical hurt (Eisenberger & Lieberman, 2004). The result isn't motivation – it's shame, withdrawal, and quitting. Accountability without comparison is the only kind that actually helps.
Habit data is sensitive
Whether you meditated. Whether you slept. Whether you took your medication. This data doesn't belong on someone else's server. Accountability shouldn't mean handing over your private health data.
Accountability that doesn't shame
You create a check-in card. You pick a goal. You send it via iMessage, WhatsApp, or AirDrop. Your partner sees exactly that – and nothing more.
You choose what gets shared
No automatic data export. No access to your account. You select a goal, add an optional personal message, and generate a card. What you don't choose, nobody sees.
No comparison. Just your progress.
The card shows: how many days you were active this week, which habits you had today. No percentages. No rankings. No benchmarking against your partner. Just: you, this week, framed positively.
Your partner doesn't need the app
They get an image – like a normal photo. You send it via iMessage, WhatsApp, email, or AirDrop. No app install. No account. No registration required on their end.
Automate it with Siri Shortcuts
You can automate DopaLoop via the Shortcuts app: every Sunday evening, the check-in card gets created – you just tap send. A routine that costs no willpower.
When the check-in helps
The Sunday check-in with your best friend
You've agreed: every Sunday you send each other an update. No pressure. Just a quick "active 5 of 7 days" – nothing more. But it's enough to keep you going.
Updating your therapist without a privacy problem
You want to show your therapist how your week went. The card gives you a visual summary – without sharing sensitive raw data. They see the trend, not the details.
Automatically – so you don't have to remember
A shortcut creates the card every Monday morning. No effort. No "I should have sent that." It just happens.
Frequently Asked Questions
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- Gollwitzer, P. M., & Sheeran, P. (2006). Implementation intentions and goal achievement: A meta-analysis of effects and processes. Advances in Experimental Social Psychology, 38, 69–119.
- Barkley, R. A. (2012). Executive Functions: What They Are, How They Work, and Why They Evolved. Guilford Press. ISBN: 978-1-4625-0535-6.
- Deci, E. L., & Ryan, R. M. (2000). The "what" and "why" of goal pursuits: Human needs and the self-determination of behavior. Psychological Inquiry, 11(4), 227–268.
- Eisenberger, N. I., & Lieberman, M. D. (2004). Why rejection hurts: A common neural alarm system for physical and social pain. Trends in Cognitive Sciences, 8(7), 294–300.
Start today – with someone in your corner
Accountability without comparison. Privacy-first. In DopaLoop.